Excerpt from Let Food be Thy Gift
We don’t need to do better and try harder
We don’t need to work harder.
We don’t need more discipline.
We don’t need more focus.
We don’t need tougher workouts.
We don’t need harder exercises.
We don’t need another diet.
We don’t need a stricter program.
We don’t need to be broken down.
We don’t need smaller portions.
We don’t need more reps or sets.
We don’t need motivation.
But…we do need to rediscover what health feels like and looks like, and how we are naturally designed to “be” healthy. We aren’t designed to “just do it” but we are designed to “BE” whole people who are not defined by what we can or cannot do.
When we know who we are and how we are designed to eat, sleep, drink, sleep, breathe, listen, ask, look and move to nourish our spirits, hearts, minds, bodies and neighbors, then WE WILL strengthen our emotional, physical, spiritual, relational and mental health.
Do you want to be at a healthy weight?
Do you want to be less stressed?
Do you want to be less busy?
Do you want to be healthier?
Do you want real friends and community?
Of course you do. We are naturally designed to want these things and we need these things to become our best selves. However, we are not going to find our best beings by doing a program or a formula. We are not going to find health/wholeness in anything or from anyone who wants to separate our hearts, spirits, minds and bodies to get results.
You know what I gave up when I had six-pack abs? I gave up loving my heart, my mind, my community and my spirit to make sure I ate and worked out when the program dictated. The more I focused on my body, the more obsessed I became with my body. Eventually, circumstances created the space for me to see that I had reduced myself to a body to fit into a formula to get results that told me who I was and what to do because I had forgotten who I was and how I was designed.
When our whole day revolves around what we eat, how we exercise, what we look like, what we buy and what we do, then clearly we have forgotten who we are and how we are designed to live as human beings. Whether we realize it or not, an If- Then formula encourages us to sabotage the growth and development of ourselves, our relationships and our lives because they reduce us to bodies and just do whatever is “guaranteed” to get fast results. Living as bodies, we exchange living and discovering our amazing selves to grind out the latest formula of happiness, regardless of the anxiety, pain, fear, guilt, loneliness, hopelessness or shame that results from what we are doing.
Have you ever stopped to think that grinding it out is keeping you from being known and accepted because it keeps your true self from being known and accepted? Perhaps, it is not your effort or lack of effort that are failing but these broken formulas and programs are failing you and producing an epidemic of sickness, disease, fragmentation, apathy, loneliness and anxiety.
Remember that we are not designed to eat, exercise, drink, worship, work, play and consume our way out of shame, guilt, fear or pain. Nor can we earn love, joy, hope, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness and self-control. The truth is that there are no formulas to life, love, health, happiness and being human.
Step away from the formulas and having others “motivate” you to do better and try harder. It is time to give up the grind and remember how to listen, learn, live and love.
Remember… you are amazing. You have a beautiful design. Today is a perfect day to rediscover who you are and how you are designed to be and live. I don’t know where this process will take you but I can promise that it will be better than being reduced to a body so you can work harder, have more discipline, generate more focus, do tougher workouts, push harder and do another ridiculous diet.
You deserve more. You deserve to be your best you. You deserve a place to rest and remember that you already have everything you need to be healthy.