Excerpt from Let Food Be Thy Gift
Are your “What ifs” keeping you from living?
Have you ever thought about how many what ifs you might be holding onto or how many what ifs might be holding onto you? There are what ifs in our closets. “What if I lose 10 lbs, then I can wear those clothes again.” There are what ifs in our garages. “What if I need that birdhouse lamp?” There are what ifs in our pantries, storage units and there are what ifs in our spirits, hearts, minds, bodies and relationships. Have you ever thought how what ifs don’t create the space to rest but they absolutely keep us busy living in the past, unable to face the present truth or set us free to live with open hearts, open minds, open spirits and open hands to the future? Could it be that all our what ifs are not only wasting space, time, money and energy, but they are keeping us from living in a natural rhythm and flow to give and receive the love and truth that we desperately need to become our best selves?
No doubt, the what ifs in my closet and garage may clutter my house but what’s really controlling me are the what-ifs of my life… “What if I had just stayed in a bad relationship, What if I had spent more time with kids, What if I had done more, done less or done something different?” I have discovered that there are a lot of What ifs at the root of my anxiety, fears, guilt and shame, and they are getting int the way of the things that I need to experience and enjoy my life right here and right now. These what ifs have never once produced peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control because they have kept me looking back, not trusting the process of life or believing in the mystery and power of something greater than myself. Even worse, my what ifs tempt me to waste time pondering what if.
It is obvious that what ifs do not create change. They have only cluttered our present opportunities to live, love, dream, risk, grow, flourish and live how we are designed.
Don’t you think its time to clean out the what ifs and be set free from guilt, shame, pain and fear? While being set free to receive forgiveness, mercy, truth and love?
We cannot live with what ifs because they distract, clutter and prevent us from living in the present but how do we clean out the what ifs? Perhaps, the first place to start is by telling the truth about them and asking ourselves questions about what we need to live today. Are we holding onto to crumbs of the past? Are we scared to clear out anger, guilt, shame and pain, and create the space for vulnerability, uncertainty and mystery? Will we allow ourselves the chance to trust the process of letting go and open ourselves to the opportunities to give and receive love, truth, hope, and joy?
Today, I invite you to clean out every space that keeps you hoarding the crumbs of what if and open your heart, mind, spirit and hands to the gifts that are being given today, gifts that are designed to fill you up with love, beauty, strength, care and nourishment.