Give Up the Grind

You don’t need to work harder. You don’t need more discipline. You don’t need more focus. You don’t need tougher workouts. You don’t need harder exercises. You don’t need a diet. You don’t need a better weight loss program. You don’t need to be broken down. You don’t need to focus on change. You don’t need more reps or sets. You don’t need f…ing motivation.


I want you to discover what real health feels and looks like, and how you are naturally designed to “be” healthy. You aren’t designed to “just do it” but you are designed to be a whole-person who isn’t defined by what you can or cannot do.
When you know who you are and how you’re designed to breathe, listen, ask, look and move to nourish your spirit, heart, mind, body and relationships as a WHOLE Person, then you WILL become emotionally, physically, spiritually, relationally and mentally healthier as WHOLE PERSON.

Do you want to be at a healthy weight? Do you want to be less stressed? Do you want to be less busy? Do you want to be healthier? Do you want real friends and community? Of course you do.

We are naturally designed to want to these things and we desperately need these things to become our best selves. However, we are not going to find our best (true) selves by doing a program or a formula. We are not going to find heath/wholeness in anything that separate or discounts our hearts, spirits, minds and bodies to get a result.

You know what I gave-up when I had six-pack abs? I gave up loving my heart, my mind, my community and my spirit to make sure I ate and worked out when I was supposed to. The more I focused on my body, the more obsessed I became with my body. Thankfully, I was brought to a point where I had to admit that I had obeyed and followed a formula that reduced my whole person to a body in order to get results, because I needed those results to tell who I was and what to do.


For most of my life, I did not understand how I was designed but why could I when I was taught to revolve my whole self and whole day around what I could and could not do. Little did I realize or understand that when our lives our dictated by what we eat, how to exercise, what we buy and what we do, we are not only living as bodies, but we are living as consumers.

Furthermore, we are living as consumers, when we attempt to fill ourselves up and change ourselves from the the outside-in. By living as bodies and as consumers, we surrender actual living to do whatever is “guaranteed” to “change our lives and get results” and we grind it out regardless of the anxiety, pain, fear, guilt, loneliness, hopelessness or shame that results from what we are doing.

For example, social media has resulted in increasing levels of anxiety and loneliness but we still keep logging on for more. Eating has resulted in sickness and disease but we keep eating whatever junk makes us “feel good.” We eat, don’t eat, exercise, don’t exercise, watch, scroll, work and worship to get results, even when those results are hurting our spirits, hearts, minds, bodies and relationships.


Have you ever stopped to think how grinding it out might be the very thing keeping us from being known and accepted by keeping us disconnected from ourselves, others and the world. Perhaps, it is not your effort or lack of effort but the broken formulas and the self-sabotaging programs that we believe and do that are producing an epidemic of unhealthy results. Perhaps, it is time to remember that we are not designed to eat, exercise, drink, worship, work, play and consume our way out of shame, guilt, fear or pain and into love, joy, hope, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness or self-control.


It’s time to step away from beating yourself up and having others beat you up to do better/ try harder.


It’s time to give-up the grind and listen, learn, live and love.

I don’t know where this process will take you but I can promise that it will be better than being reduced to a body, living as a parasitic consumer and using the hell out of one part of yourself to “get” a result.

I am shouting it from the rooftops- You are amazing! You have a beautiful design!! It’s time to rediscover your design and the life you are designed to live.


Join me for a new way and new conversation about everything we do to get everything we already have been given at vivealchemy.com

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